Paper Versus Screen

Why print books have an advantage over digital books

Woman reading a few books on the floor

Readers love books – real books, the ones you can hold in your hand. In spite of the popularity of ebooks, most readers still prefer to read print books. Is this just resistance to change or is there something deeper behind this? Are the benefits of reading (see previous post) the same for both?

These are questions I’ve been asking myself in order to understand why I waffle back and forth on the issue of print vs digital books.

I have overstuffed wooden bookcases as well as a disorganized library of ebooks. (I read most of my ebooks on my iPad using the Kindle app. I also read a few using Vyrso.) I enjoy both print and digital but which is better?

TWO REASONS I PREFER EBOOKS TO PRINT BOOKS

  • COST – Not only are ebooks cheaper, you can easily find discounted and even free books through sites such as bookbub.com and gospelebooks.net.
  • CONVENIENCE – I like the convenience of a portable library when I travel. It provides instant access to a variety of books without taking up space in my suitcase. Also, I find it easier to read newspapers on-line. There is no cumbersome paper to hold, fold or pile up.

THREE REASONS I PREFER PRINT BOOKS TO DIGITAL

  • COMFORT – Curling up in a comfortable chair with my iPad just is not the same as doing so with a book. Also, reading from tablets, smart phones and computer screens can cause eye strain and headaches, symptoms of computer vision syndrome. (One benefit that devices do have over print books is the flexibility to change font, page size and format.)
  • PLEASURE – What is pleasure reading for you? Sunning yourself on a beautiful beach with book in hand? Soaking in the tub with a good novel? Reading in bed on a lazy Saturday morning?

Reading for pleasure for me engages as many senses as possible. I like the feel of a book in my hands – its texture, weight and the thickness of the pages; the sound of flipping the pages; the smell; and the sensation of cracking open a brand new book. There are attempts to create some of these sensations with ebooks. (Check out the iPad book page flip/turn).

I do enjoy reading magazines on my iPad. Being able to zoom in on images to examine the finer details or to access additional content through videos and other media are a treat to the senses.

  • SHARING – My greatest frustration with ebooks is not being able to pass them on to friends. I was surprised to discover recently that it is actually possible to share Kindle books but the sharing is limited to a one-time fourteen-day loan per book.

Prayers for Boys and Girls

It’s also hard to share a book that has significant or sentimental value to you if it is not in print form. To the left is one of my most valued books given to me by one of my first Sunday School teachers. It is worn on the edges and inside the front cover, my name is awkwardly printed in pencil. The copyright year of the book is 1957 (before I was born, in case you are wondering!) I can’t imagine an ebook ever evoking such strong sentiment as a book such as this.

THE GREATEST ADVANTAGE PRINT HAS OVER DIGITAL

COMPREHENSION & RETENTION – Generally, I prefer nonfiction over fiction. Learning, studying, remembering and integrating new information into my life and writing is very important to me. There are studies that show that readers using print books understand and remember more of what they read than those who read books on screens. (The Reading Brain in the Digital Age: The Science of Paper versus Screens)

There are several reasons for this:

  • Limitations of a screen – The visual limitation of what a reader sees on a screen interferes with comprehending what is being read. A reader cannot flip back or ahead or skim easily through a digital book. According to a 2013 article in Scientific American, the ability to touch and turn a physical page contributes to understanding and remembering what is being read.

Turning the pages of a paper book is like leaving one footprint after another on the trail—there’s a rhythm to it and a visible record of how far one has traveled. All these features not only make text in a paper book easily navigable, they also make it easier to form a coherent mental map of the text…  (The Reading Brain in the Digital Age).”

  • More Physically & Mentally Taxing – The stress on the eyes, the limitations of working with a screen and the movement required to turn the pages on a device require more of the reader than when reading a print book. By limiting the way people navigate texts, screens impair comprehension”(The Reading Brain in the Digital Age).

I find this to be particularly true when reading deeply (more on that later) and reading to proofread or edit.

  • More Distractions – One of the reasons I enjoy reading online and on my iPad is that it is quick and easy to look up definitions, place names and to follow links related to the content.  However, I often find myself following interesting links that lead me far from the content I started with.

In Teaching With Interactive Picture E-Books in Grades K–6, when researchers compared children reading conventional books with children using interactive electronic picture books, they found that the former group learned more than the latter group.  The conclusion was not that ebooks were bad for children but that “the act of reading on tablets is something different from reading traditional books, not better or worse”.

THEY ARE DIFFERENT

The quote above is probably the most helpful comment I came across in my research. Understanding that reading books on a screen is different than reading print books explains why many people enjoy both, but for different reasons.

We are not likely to see any significant changes in print books but I am excited about the possibilities with ebooks. Peter Meyers, author of Breaking the Page, believes that as long as ebooks are produced as replicas of print books, they will never reach their full potential. He shares fascinating ideas to improve ebooks so that readers will enjoy them more and retain more of what they read.

I look forward to those improvements so that I can enjoy deep reading regardless of whether the book is in print form or read on a screen.

In my next post, I will explain what deep reading is, how to do it and why it is important for those who want to grow deeper in their faith.

An Inexpensive Summer Binge That May Even Improve Your Health

The benefits of reading

culture

Now that July is here it seems that summer is finally in full swing! With summer comes many delights – locally grown fresh fruit and vegetables, lots of ice cream and sunshine, beaches and vacation. To make the best of our short summer, especially in Atlantic Canada, I encourage you to binge – not on strawberry shortcake, lobster or other summer treats, but on reading. It won’t increase your sugar or your cholesterol and its impact will last longer than that tan you will work on all summer!

Summer is a great time to read. Most of us find more leisure time during the summer months and a book is a good excuse for sitting outside. Don’t forget to pack a book or two with your beachwear. It is easy to take for granted a skill as powerful as reading when we have so many options for spending our time.

Mark Twain once wrote,

The man who does not read has no advantage over the man who cannot read.

There are many advantages for the person who reads. Here are three that immediately came to mind as I thought about how reading impacts my life.

1. Reading makes me a better conversationalist.

I often find it difficult to start conversations with total strangers. However, if someone has a book in their hand whether sitting on an airplane or standing in a bookstore, it is easy to strike up a conversation. Books also give me ideas and facts to share in my conversations and help increase my vocabulary. Sometimes people think I’m a really interesting person. The truth is I read many interesting books!

2. Reading makes it possible for me to know people I will never meet and to explore places I will never visit.

3. Reading forces me to slow down.

Current research debunks the myth that anyone can multi-task effectively. Reading makes it almost impossible to even try to do anything else at the same time. Like a speed bump, reading forces me to slow down and shift gears.

There are benefits to reading that should come as no surprise like contributing to cognitive development and impacting income levels. However, I was surprised at how reading impacts other areas of life. Here are several that are listed in Reading Facts found on Canada’s National Reading Campaign website.

4. Reading is good for your health.

A. It is one of the best ways to reduces stress.                                     “Reading was proved:                                                                                        68% better at reducing stress levels than listening to music;                100% more effective than drinking a cup of tea;
300% better than going for a walk and
700% more than playing video games.
Reading for as little as 6 minutes is sufficient to reduce stress levels by 60%, slowing heart beat, easing muscle tension and altering the state of mind.”
Dr. David Lewis, ‘Galaxy Stress Research,’ Mindlab International, Sussex University (2009)

B. It contributes to overall good physical and mental health. 
“Compared with those who did not read a book in 2010,book readers:
-are more likely to report that they have very good or excellent health (54% vs. 44%).
-are more likely to report that they have very good or excellent mental health (63% vs. 56%).”
-Hill Strategies “The Arts & Well-Being in Canada”

C. It lowers the incidence of dementia.
“Our study showed that being engaged in more reading and hobby activities and spending more time each week reading is associated with a lower subsequent risk of incident dementia.”
Tiffany Hughes, Chung-Chou H. Chang, Joni Vander Bilt & Mary Ganguli, from “Engagement in reading and hobbies and risk of incident dementia”

5. Reading impacts relationships.

A. As citizens
“The percentage of book readers volunteering for a non-profit organization (42%) is much higher than the percentage of non-readers (25%).
The percentage of book readers donating money or goods to a non-profit organization (82%) is much higher than the percentage of non-readers (66%).
71% of book readers (compared with 65% of non-readers) indicated that they had done a favour for a neighbour in the past month.
49% of book readers have a very strong sense of belonging to Canada, compared with 42% of non-readers.”
Hill Strategies, “Social Effects of Culture: Exploratory Statistical Evidence and Detailed Statistical Models”

B. In interpersonal relationships                                                                  Reading fiction has been proven to increase empathy and better understanding of people different from ourselves.
Raymond A. Mar, Keith Oatley and Jordan B. Peterson, from “Exploring the link between reading fiction and empathy”;                       

C. In intimate relationships
This study showed that people with a high literacy rate were less likely to experience divorce. http://www.literacytrust.org.uk/assets/0000/0402/Literacy_Changes_  Lives_Executive_summary.pdf

D. In raising self-awareness
“In their pleasure reading, teens gain significant insights into mature relationships, personal values, cultural identity, physical safety and security, aesthetic preferences, and understanding of the physical world.”
Vivian Howard, University of Dalhousie, from “The Importance of Pleasure Reading: Self-identification, self-construction and self-awareness.”

John Green summarizes the influence of reading on our relationships and how we see ourselves in this way:

Great books help you understand, and they help you feel understood.

If these benefits don’t inspire you to read more, perhaps this final one will.

6. Reading can transform lives.

I have found few stories testify to the transforming power of reading more than that of Dr. Benjamin Carson, retired neurosurgeon who ran as a Republican candidate for the U.S. Presidency earlier this year.

Carson, a committed Christian, became famous for his delicate surgeries separating conjoined twins. He contributes his success to his mother, a single parent who insisted that Carson read two books a week and write reports on them. She would “read” them and mark them up. What he didn’t know at the time was that his mother was illiterate but her scheme worked! His grades improved. He discovered he loved to learn. His confidence increased. He found a career he loved in which he was able to save many lives.

You might enjoy watching the 2009 movie based on his life from 1961 to 1987 called Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story.

You can also listen to him tell his story in a 2015 live interview with Michael Hyatt.

Several times during the preparation of this post I have just stopped writing and researching and picked up a book just to indulge! I hope this post will encourage you to do the same many times over the next few weeks.

Reading clearly benefits us personally – physically, mentally, and socially and impacts our choices and our future opportunities. If reading even for six minutes can make a noticeable difference in us physically (see #4 above), imagine what good could be accomplished over a summer of reading!

Perhaps you are wondering, as I have, if the impact of reading differs according to what you are reading or how you are reading it. Is fiction just as beneficial as nonfiction? Is a magazine just as good as a book? Are there more benefits to reading print as compared to digital? I’ll be answering these questions in next week’s post.

 

Myth #4 – A Full Life is Incompatible With a Life of Suffering

The 4th and final myth about suffering exposed in the book of Job

Job with his Friends Sharing his troubles

I’m so glad to finally reach Job 42, the final chapter of this book. It is not that I haven’t enjoyed this study. I have. I have gleaned wonderful insights about suffering and how to support those who are experiencing suffering, but I long for justice. Finally, there is justice for Job and he is restored. I like happy endings!

FULL OF YEARS

I’ve been intrigued by the last sentence of this book which says of Job that “he died, old and full of years” (42:17). This phrase “full of years”, describes “a life that was long, successful, satisfying, and rich in God’s blessings.” (Out of the Storm and Into God’s Arms, Jill Briscoe, p.363)

This doesn’t sound like Job’s life, does it? Can a full life also be a life that has experienced great suffering?

Three other men in the Old Testament are described as old and “full of years” – Abraham (Genesis 25:8), Isaac (Genesis 35:29) and David (1 Chronicles 23:1). None of them had easy lives. Obeying God was costly for them. They also had dysfunctional families where favoritism, conflict, lying and deception caused great personal suffering.

After thinking about the lives of these men and Job, I don’t believe it is possible to have a full life without suffering.

JOB IS RESTORED

Chapter 42 records four ways Job’s life was restored:

  1. His relationships were restored.

All his brothers and sisters and everyone who had known him before came and ate with him in his house. They comforted and consoled him over all the trouble the Lord had brought on him, and each one gave him a piece of silver and a gold ring. (42:11)

How delightful this must have been for Job! This is quite the contrast to the isolation and loneliness he experienced in the midst of his suffering which he described in 19:13-19:

  • My relatives have gone away.
  • My closest friends have forgotten me.
  • I summon my servant, but he does not answer.
  • My breath is offensive to my wife.
  • I am loathsome to my own family.
  • All my intimate friends detest me.
  • Those I love have turned against me.

      2. His wealth was restored.

In verse 12, Job’s wealth is described as “fourteen thousand sheep, six thousand camels, a thousand yoke of oxen and a thousand donkeys.”

Compare this with the number of animals he owned in 1:3 and you will see that the number has exactly doubled in chapter 42.

3. His family was restored.

Job had buried ten children. He was able to raise a second family of seven sons and three daughters, the same number of sons and daughters as he had before tragedy struck (1:2).

 4. His health was restored.

Remember how Job’s health had failed? His friends who came to see him hardly recognized him (2:12). Not only did Job recover, he lived to be a 140 years old. Many scholars believe that Job was 70 when his troubles began, partly because 140 is double that and fits in with the double blessings Job experienced. Also, in Psalm 90:10, seventy years was viewed as a full life. Job’s long life was evidence of God’s blessings upon him.

It would be easy to conclude from this story that if we just persevere through our suffering that we, like Job, will experience great blessings in the end. This is not the complete equation. There is one missing factor that is found in Job 42:1-6. This is not just the bridge between Job’s life of suffering and his life of blessing. It is the turning point in Job’s life.

JOB’S TURNING POINT

Job 42:1-6 reveals that Job’s suffering has changed him, not because of what he has lost but because of what he has gained (this is before the years of blessing). He is a changed man because of his personal and profound encounter with the living God. I believe that without this inward change, there would have been no epilogue filled with blessing.

In this deeply spiritual experience,

  • Job recognized God’s sovereignty:

I know that you can do all things; no purpose of yours can be thwarted. (42:2)

He now submitted to God’s sovereign will even if he didn’t understand it.

  • Job realized that he had been wrong.

Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know.” (42:.3)

He has been humbled by this encounter with God.

  • Job’s relationship with God had deepened.

My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.” (42:5)

Job had known about God through worship and conversations but he had just experienced God, personally and profoundly.  Not only was he humbled by this experience but he also repented of his attitude (42:6). Job had accused God of being unfair and uncaring and he had been wrong.

Once Job humbled himself and recognized that God knew what he was doing even if Job did not, God restored him as His servant. Twice in chapter one and two of this book, God referred to Job as “my servant Job” (1:8;2:3). In 42:7-9, God refers to Job as His servant four times.

His suffering and new insight increased his capacity to serve God and minister to others. Whereas in chapter 1:5, Job ministered to his family by offering  sacrifices on behalf of his children, he now was called upon to receive the sacrifices of his repentant friends and intercede for them.

After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. So now take seven bulls and seven rams and go to my servant Job and sacrifice a burnt offering for yourselves. My servant Job will pray for you, and I will accept his prayer and not deal with you according to your folly. You have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has.” So Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite did what theLord told them; and the Lord accepted Job’s prayer. (42:7-9)

This was when Job’s future changed.

After Job had prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortunes and gave him twice as much as he had before. (42:10)

Both Job and his friends were guilty of saying wrong things about God. They accused God of doing wrong. They put God in a box and could not understand when He did not behave as they had expected Him to. I find it intriguing that even though all four were guilty, it was only upon Job that God poured out His blessings. That was because it had cost Job so much more.

God does not promise to repay us in kind for all that we lose in our suffering, as He did with Job. However, He does promise to bless abundantly those who experience losses as they serve Him. These blessings may be experienced in this life or in the life to come (Mark 10:29-30).

SEEING THE BIG PICTURE

Perhaps you are not seeing blessings coming from your pain and suffering. Remember that for Job it was not instant restoration. It took years. Job saw it in his lifetime but not everyone does. Robert Jermain Thomas didn’t.

Thomas, a Welsh man who loved the Lord, offered himself for missionary service in 1861. When he heard that Bibles were needed in Korea he decided to take Chinese Bibles to the Koreans. (The Bible was translated into Chinese in 1819. There was no Korean translation at the time.). In 1866 Thomas boarded the American trade/warship the SS General Sherman and reached Pyongyang which today is in North Korea. The Koreans attacked the foreign warship. Thomas, fearing losing all the Bibles scooped up as many as he could, climbed into a boat and reached the shore. Shortly after landing he was killed.  He was 27 years old.

If you take this as a snapshot of the life of Thomas you would conclude that his efforts and his life were wasted, but the story does not end there. One of the Bibles Thomas brought to shore ended up in the hands of one of the governing officials, Pak Yong-Sik. He did not know what the book was but put it to practical use by using its pages to wallpaper his home.

Another Bible was taken by Choe Chi Rang, an 11-year-old boy who had come with his uncle to see the ship and the foreigners. Years later, Choe bought the home of the official. When the first American Presbyterian missionary arrived in Korea in 1891, he was surprised to find the Bible literally on the walls of this home. He was able to explain the gospel using these very words and  a church was formed. Today, the largest Christian churches in the world are found in South Korea.

God’s ways indeed are mysterious and marvelous, beyond our understanding. If we in the midst of suffering can remember that we are part of God’s bigger plan and trust Him with our lives, then we will be able to say that both these statements are true – “The Lord took away. My life became full.”

 

Myth #3 – If I Ask/Beg/Pray Enough God Will Answer My “Why?”

The 3rd of 4 common misbeliefs about suffering exposed in the book of Job

Job with his Friends Sharing his troubles

In this series on Job, we have considered two myths so far. The first was concerned with how we can avoid suffering (We can’t!). The second post was focused on how we can support those who are experiencing suffering (We can!). This third post focuses on praying for God to answer our questions about why we are suffering.

A.W. Tozer (1897-1963), an American pastor and writer, once said, “What you believe about God is the most important thing about you.”

Think about that for a moment. What do you think is most important about a person? If you grew up in a rural community as I did, you might say it is who your parents are or where you were born. Others believe the most important thing about you is what you do for a living, how much you earn or  your contribution to society. Still others insist that the most important thing about any individual is whether or not they lived up to their full potential. With all these possibilities why would Tozer say that everything else pales in comparison to the significance of what a person believes about God?

Perhaps it is because our understanding of God – His character, His will, His purpose and His ways, determines how we think, how we treat others and how we understand the world around us. I believe that nothing reveals more clearly what we believe about God than the furnace of suffering. I also believe that it is in the fire of suffering that our faith and understanding of God have the greatest opportunity to deepen.

This was true for Job. Consider these four lessons Job learned about God and prayer because of his suffering.

1. God hears and answers prayer.

Nothing will teach us to pray like suffering, if we choose to pray. Job was relentless in his seeking God for comfort and for answers. We find one of his prayers in Job 13:20-22 –

Only grant me these two things, God…,
Withdraw your hand far from me,
and stop frightening me with your terrors.
 Then summon me and I will answer,
or let me speak, and you reply to me.

I wonder how Job spoke these words. Did he utter them humbly and weakly, exhausted physically and mentally from his ordeal, or did he stand defiantly before God, shouting out his demands and shaking his fist? We really don’t know but we do know that God heard and responded. God responded when He was ready – twenty-five chapters after Job uttered this prayer.

What do you notice about God’s response to Job in 38:2,3?

Who is this that obscures my plans
with words without knowledge?
Brace yourself like a man;
I will question you,
and you shall answer me.

Did you notice it? I’m sure Job did. God said the very same thing to Job that Job had said to Him – “I will ask the questions and you will answer me.” Job now was certain that God had heard his prayer.

2. God may answer our prayers differently than we had expected.

Job wanted to know why he was suffering but he got so much more! In God’s response in chapters 38:1-41:34, (with a brief interruption by Job) God reveals Himself as creator and sustainer of all creation, a creator who pays attention to the smallest of details. After Job’s interruption, God reveals His commitment to justice and continues the theme of creation.

While God’s response is very effective in putting Job in his place, there is something noticeably absent in his response to Job’s prayers. GOD DOES NOT ANSWER JOB’S QUESTION!

God does not speak to Job’s personal situation. Instead, He reveals to Job traits about Himself, such as, He is eternal, powerful, caring and just.

Why didn’t God just answer Job’s question? I can’t speak for God but I have a theory. I wonder if God’s point was that knowing “who” was more important than knowing “why”. If we know God more fully then we are likely to trust Him more. An answer that only satisfies our intellect doesn’t necessarily build trust. Also, an answer to “why” may be sufficient for one particular circumstance but will not necessarily help when faced with suffering in the future under different circumstances.

When we understand who God really is, the “why” is not so important. Ruth Bell Graham communicates this truth very well in the following poem:

I lay my “whys”
before Your Cross
In worship kneeling,
My mind too numb
For thought,
My heart beyond
All feeling.
And worshipping,
Realize that I
In knowing you
Don’t need a “why.”

(Out of the Storm and Into God’s Arms, Jill Briscoe, p.150)

3) Our response to God’s answers may be different than what we had expected.

Job listened and then responded to God.

I am unworthy—how can I reply to you?
I put my hand over my mouth.
I spoke once, but I have no answer—
twice, but I will say no more. (Job 40:4-5)

Job was looking for satisfaction and affirmation that he was right before God. Instead, he was humbled and he stopped talking. I can relate. The most profound prayer experiences I have had have been when I stopped talking!

When Job decided to be silent, God continued to speak.

Do you have an arm like God’s,
and can your voice thunder like his?
Then adorn yourself with glory and splendor,
and clothe yourself in honor and majesty.
Unleash the fury of your wrath,
look at all who are proud and bring them low,
look at all who are proud and humble them,
crush the wicked where they stand.
Bury them all in the dust together;
shroud their faces in the grave.
Then I myself will admit to you
that your own right hand can save you. (Job 40:9-14)

Job’s response is recorded a couple of chapters later.

 I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted. (Job 42:1)

Job is humbled before God and willing to submit to God’s will even if he does not understand it. This encounter with God has been life changing.

“My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.”                 (Job 40:5).

His experience was personal and profound, but he still did not know why he had to go through such horrendous loss and suffering.

Like Job, we need to pray our way through suffering but there is nothing we can do to make God give us an answer. He hears our prayers and will answer in His time and His answer to your prayers might surprise you. If your desire to know God is greater than your demand to know why you are suffering, you will experience peace even in the midst of your turmoil. The experience can become a deeply personal and spiritual one even though your circumstances have not changed.

If you are experiencing a storm in your life right now, take some encouragement from Job. He was able to worship and trust God even if his questions remained unanswered.

And I’ll praise you in this storm
And I will lift my hands
That you are who you are
No matter where I am
And every tear I’ve cried
You hold in your hand
You never left my side
And though my heart is torn
I will praise you in this storm

(refrain of the song “Praise You in This Storm”)

Myth #2 – I Can’t Comfort Someone if I Don’t Know What to Say.

The 2nd of 4 common misbeliefs about suffering exposed in the book of Job

Job with his Friends Sharing his troubles

In the previous post, we saw that living right can’t keep you from suffering. Today’s post is focused on how to support those who are suffering.

Do you enjoy going to funerals? Of course not, but does that keep you from attending? I know people who don’t “do” funerals because they don’t know what to say. All of us struggle with words in the midst of suffering. Job’s friends teach us the importance of both our presence and our words to those experiencing suffering and loss.

THE IMPORTANCE OF SUPPORTING THOSE WHO ARE SUFFERING

I find it quite striking that the circumstances and details of Job’s losses occupy only the first two chapters of the book of Job. In contrast, thirty-six chapters record how Job’s friends attempted to comfort and support Job through his trials. Could it be that learning how to support those who are hurting is more important than understanding why they are suffering?

THE CHALLENGE FACED BY JOB’S FRIENDS

When Job’s three friends, Eliphaz, Bildad and Zophar heard of Job’s suffering they went immediately to be with him to “sympathize with him and comfort him” (2:11). They knew that he had lost all his wealth and his ten children but they were not prepared for what they saw.

a) HIS PHYSICAL SUFFERING

“When they saw him from a distance they could hardly recognize him; they began to weep aloud…because they saw how great his suffering was.” (2:12,13). Job was covered with ”painful sores from the soles of his feet to the top of his head” (2:7). He was “nothing but skin and bones” (19:20). His skin was turning black and peeling and he had a fever (Job.30:30).

b) HIS ISOLATION

The three friends found Job “sitting on an ash heap” (2:8). This was outside the city where garbage was dumped and burned, and where outcasts lived and begged for food. This was where they found the one who once was the greatest man in all the East.

You can hear the pain and loneliness in Job’s words:

He has alienated my brothers from me;
my acquaintances are completely estranged from me.
My kinsmen have gone away;
my friends have forgotten me.
My guests and my maidservants count me a stranger;
they look upon me as an alien.
I summon my servant, but he does not answer,
though I beg him with my own mouth.
My breath is offensive to my wife;
I am loathsome to my own brothers.
Even the little boys scorn me;
when I appear, they ridicule me.
All my intimate friends detest me;
those I love have turned against me.”
(Job 19:13-19)

c) HIS DESPAIR

Most of us would be troubled to hear a friend express these feelings expressed by Job:

“May the day of my birth perish,
and the night it was said, ‘A boy is born!’

“Why did I not perish at birth,
and die as I came from the womb?

“I have no peace, no quietness;
I have no rest, but only turmoil.” (3:3,11,26)

For seven days and seven nights these friends sat with Job, weeping and saying nothing (2:12,13). But they began to speak because they were faced with their greatest challenge of all.

d) THEIR THEOLOGY CONFLICTED WITH THEIR PERSONAL KNOWLEDGE OF JOB

Job’s three friends believed that only the guilty suffer. They thought they knew him but the extent of his suffering was evidence to them that they did not know him as well as they had thought.

Here is just a sampling of what they said to Job:

  • Eliphaz:

“As I have observed, those who plow evil
and those who sow trouble reap it.” (4:8)

“I myself have seen a fool taking root,
but suddenly his house was cursed.” (5:3)

  • Bildad:

“When your children sinned against (God) him,
he gave them over to the penalty of their sin.” (8:4)

  • Zophar:

“Oh, how I wish that God would speak, that he would open his lips against you…Know this: God has even forgotten some of your sin” (11:5,6b), suggesting that Job didn’t get half of what he deserved!

Perhaps you can relate to Job’s friends. I can. I have often been confronted with suffering that has been an affront to my eyes, ears and theology.

THE CHALLENGE JOB FACED WITH HIS FRIENDS

The comfort of the presence of his friends was shattered when they revealed what they really thought about his situation. Job was faced with additional suffering, that caused by his friends!

Job called them “worthless physicians” (13:4) and “miserable comforters” (16:1). He wished they would be silent (13:5) and end their “long-winded speeches” (16:2-4).

Their words brought no comfort, only condemnation. Their words angered him, hurt him, and insulted him.

You might want to say of Eliphaz, Bildad and Zophar that “with friends like that, who needs enemies?” But let us not be too quick to judge them. We have all struggled with what to say to those who are in the midst of a crisis. Probably all of us have made the same three mistakes as Job’s’ friends.

THREE COMMON MISTAKES MADE WHEN COMFORTING THOSE WHO ARE SUFFERING

#1 – We underestimate the comfort of our presence and overestimate the necessity of our words.

Job’s three friends immediately went to be with him when they heard what had happened. They sat with him and were silent. What a comfort that must have been to Job! He didn’t have to answer questions or be responsible for keeping the conversation going. They were there just for him when everyone else had abandoned him.

There is a valuable ministry in listening. Warren Wiersbe explains it well.

A wise counselor and comforter must listen with the heart and respond to feelings as well as to words. You do not heal a broken heart with logic; you heal a broken heart with love.” (Wiersbe, W. W., 1996. Be Patient. Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, p.27)

You can communicate love and support without saying a word!

#2 – We focus on the wrong things.

Job’s so-called comforters focused on providing explanations rather than listening to Job’s thoughts, feelings and questions. We often do the same, focusing more on what we are going to say rather than listening to what is being said to us by the person we are seeking to comfort. When there is a wrong focus, things can go terribly wrong as it did with the visit with Job’s friends. Wiersbe has interesting insight into what was going on with Job’s friends.

Why would three men speak to their friend as these men spoke to Job? Why were they so angry? There is a hint of an answer in Job’s words, “Now you too have proved to be of no help; you see something dreadful and are afraid” (6:21, NIV).

The three men were afraid that the same calamities would come to them! Therefore, they had to defend their basic premise that God rewards the righteous and punishes the wicked. As long as they were “righteous,” nothing evil could happen to them in this life.

Fear and anger often go together. By maintaining his integrity and refusing to say he had sinned, Job undermined the theology of his friends and robbed them of their peace and confidence; and this made them angry. (Wiersbe,p. 28)

Job’s friends focused on themselves. They needed to have the right theology. They needed to have an answer. If Job’s friends had listened, they could have encouraged him to hold on with hope to those things he knew to be true.

Here are some of the profound statements of faith and understanding of God made by Job that his friends could have picked up on to encourage Job to continue trusting God:

  • In his hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind (12:10).
  • Though he slay me, yet will I hope in him (13:15).
  • I know that my Redeemer lives (19:25).
  • He knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold (23:10).
  • If God withdrew His Spirit all mankind would perish (14-15).
  • Far be it from God to do evil, from the Almighty to do wrong (34:10).

When we are seeking to comfort people in their loss and grief we must keep in mind that the “greatest enemy is not disease, but despair.” (Our Daily Bread booklet, “Hope & Strength for Times of Illness”). Our words need to lift people up, not bring them down.

Remember too, that Satan’s desire is to use suffering to cause people to turn away from God (1:9-11,2:4,5). Our words must not be bait for Satan’s trap.

#3 – We try to explain what can’t be explained.

It is okay to admit that you don’t know the answers to people’s questions about suffering. If Job’s friends had admitted that, they would have spared Job some grief!

If we want to know how to be a better friend to someone who is suffering, we can learn from Job’s friends. Go. Be present. Weep with them. Be silent. Provide hope, not explanations. Focus on the other person. Say, “I don’t know”.

 

 

Myth #1 – “I Can Avoid Suffering if I Just Live Right.”

The 1st of 4 common misbeliefs about suffering exposed in the book of Job

Job with his Friends Sharing his troubles

In my last blog post, I explained that I understand the book of Job as the account of a real person who experienced real suffering. From the very first verse in this book we are given several facts about the man.

Job – the Man

In Job 1:1-2:10 we learn the following details about Job:

  • He lived in the land of Uz (1:1).
  • He was a husband and a father of ten children (1:2).
  • He was rich as evidenced by his ownership of thousands of livestock and many servants (1:3).
  • He was the greatest man in all the East (Job 1:3).

Job – a Man Right With God

It is believed that this book of the Bible predates Abraham and Moses, so it is quite remarkable that Job believed in the one God revealed in the Christian scriptures. Also, Job’s faith and righteousness made him stand out in his culture.  He is described in the very first verse of this book as “blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil.”

This was not just one man’s opinion of Job. It was also God’s opinion. In His conversation with Satan, God described Job this way – “There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.” (1:8; 2:3)

Job’s Losses

In spite of having a family, wealth, fame and a right relationship with God, Job experienced unimaginable suffering.

  • All his animals were either were carried off by enemy armies or killed by lightning (1:15-17).
  • His servants were killed in these attacks and calamities as well.
  • All ten children were killed when a tornado blew down the house that they were in (1:18-19).
  • His body was covered with painful sores from head to toe (2:7).
  • His wife questioned his integrity, his faith and told him he was better off dead (2:9).

Job – Not at Fault

None of Job’s losses were caused by anything Job had done. This is made abundantly clear from the conversation between Satan and God (Job 1:6-12; 2:1-6).

Does this cause you to feel uneasy? It makes me uncomfortable! Like the disciples in John 9:1,2, I want to think there is a logical reason for suffering, particularly personal suffering. My logic goes like this – if suffering is caused by wrong choices then I can avoid it by making right choices. Unfortunately, this is not supported in the book of Job or in my life experience.

Job’s Story – Our Story

My discomfort with the undeserved suffering of Job has increased since coming across one statement in a sermon. Jonathan Goforth (1859-1936), the first Canadian Presbyterian missionary to China, preached a sermon on Job. In that sermon, he stated, “The story of Job is the story of all of us.” I have wrestled with this statement. I don’t want it to be true! I don’t want to believe that I am just as vulnerable to suffering as was Job.

I want to believe that if I eat right, exercise regularly, keep to the speed limit, wear my seatbelt, have an annual physical check-up, save money for my future, work hard, read my Bible and pray every day that I will never have to experience what Job experienced.

But nothing protected Job – not his family, wealth, reputation or even his walk with God. Nothing will protect you or me.

Job shatters the myth that right living can keep us from suffering.

Does that knock the wind out of your sails? Does it make you wonder if it is even worth the effort trying to live a godly life if it really doesn’t matter? Actually, it does matter. It matters a lot.

The book of Job teaches us that it does matter how we live. It demonstrates from the life of this godly man that right living can’t keep you from suffering but suffering can keep you living right.

Suffering Can Keep You Living Right

We’ve seen the truth of the first half of that statement. Where do we find evidence in Job that the second half of that statement is true?

The first piece of evidence is the way Job responded to the devastating news of losing his livestock, his servants, and his children, one loss immediately followed by another.

Here is Job’s initial response. Read it slowly. Sit with it in awe and wonder.

At this (news), Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said:
“Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away; may the name of the Lord be praised.” (Job 1:20-21)

How is this possible? The short answer is because Job lived a righteous life before tragedy struck and the tragedy revealed how he lived and what he believed. And the longer explanation is….well, that’s the subject of a future post in this series!

Understanding that right living can’t keep me from suffering but suffering can keep me living right has greatly helped me to see value and hope in suffering. I will explore this more later but why don’t you take the next few days to ponder it?

Since this has been a bit heavy, let me end with a story to remind you that it does matter how we live.

A Story

“There once was a rich man who was near death. He was very grieved because he had worked so hard for his money and he wanted to be able to take it with him to heaven. So he began to pray that he might be able to take some of his wealth with him.

An angel hears his plea and appears to him. “Sorry, but you can’t take your wealth with you.” The man implores the angel to speak to God to see if He might bend the rules.

The man continues to pray that his wealth could follow him. The angel reappears and informs the man that God has decided to allow him to take one suitcase with him. Overjoyed, the man gathers his largest suitcase and fills it with pure gold bars and places it beside his bed.

Soon afterward the man dies and shows up at the Gates of Heaven to greet St. Peter. St. Peter seeing the suitcase says, “Hold on, you can’t bring that in here!”

But, the man explains to St. Peter that he has permission and asks him to verify his story with the Lord. Sure enough, St. Peter checks and comes back saying, “You’re right. You are allowed one carry-on bag, but I’m supposed to check its contents before letting it through.”

St. Peter opens the suitcase to inspect the worldly items that the man found too precious to leave behind and exclaims, “You brought pavement?!!!”(http://www.ahajokes.com/hea21.html)

The Prophet Job – Mythical Figure or Myth Buster?

Job sits with his Friends Sharing his TroublesFor Canadians in 2016, the subject of suffering is both a personal and a political issue. While our politicians debate the law and limits around doctor-assisted death, average Canadians are wrestling with how much suffering they are willing to experience in their own lives or in the lives of their loved ones, and the point when death becomes more desirable than life.

No one wants to suffer but should Christians view suffering differently than those who do not believe in God?

NEEDED: A BIBLICAL WORLDVIEW ON SUFFERING

This is not just a political issue or a personal choice. It is also a theological issue. However, I have met few Christians who are considering this emotional issue from a biblical perspective. I believe Christians need to develop a biblical worldview on suffering for several reasons:

  1. Because it is a current issue in our country, there is openness to talk about such a personal issue in the public arena. This is an opportunity to present a different perspective on the meaning of life and purpose of suffering.
  2. Christianity provides a unique perspective on suffering. Other religions deny the existence of suffering, or insist that spiritual maturity is avoiding suffering as much as possible or preach that suffering comes upon those who deserve it. Christianity however, teaches that suffering can produce godly character and can be used by God for redemptive purposes as demonstrated most profoundly in the suffering and death of Jesus Christ.
  3. The problem of suffering is often a stumbling block for people who want to believe that God is good and powerful. Intelligent and biblically informed engagement may help draw people closer to God.
  4. People are living longer so each of us will have more opportunities to experience suffering on a personal level. Our theology should provide a firm foundation for facing what most of us dread.

Let me be clear. I do not have the answer to why there is so much suffering in the world. Human suffering has existed since the fall of Adam and Eve in Genesis 3. People much smarter than me like the prophet Habakkuk and the authors of the Psalms, wrestled with the unfairness of suffering without receiving fully complete answers to their questions.

Although I don’t think anyone has a completely satisfactory answer to the problem of suffering, I do believe one book of the Bible provides more help and insight in understanding suffering than any other book in the Bible, and that is the book of Job.

INSIGHTS FROM JOB

This ancient book describes the suffering of the prophet Job and how he and his friends attempted to make sense of his suffering. God spoke to Job in the midst of his pain and loss and by the end of the book, Job has survived his ordeal and has become a changed man.

The book of Job provides biblical truth to four common but wrong beliefs many people have today about suffering and the way to respond to the suffering of others. Job sets us straight as we sit with him and his three friends through his ordeal of incredible pain and loss.

In the next four blog posts, I want to explore each of these myths or untruths. I think you will be amazed at what Job has to teach us!

REAL OR FICTITIOUS

Before we go any further, I think it is important for you to know how I am approaching this Old Testament book. There are common people as well as biblical scholars who do not believe that Job was a real person but a fictitious character used to teach us about suffering. I do not hold to this view for tw0 reasons:

  1. My understanding of scripture – It is usually (but not always) clear in scripture whether or not the text is to be taken literally. We don’t interpret literally the poetry of the Psalms or the visions of Ezekiel and Revelation. All of Jesus’ teachings are not to be taken literally, such as when He spoke in parables. He usually made it clear that He was telling a story with a teaching point rather than retelling an actual event. When you read the book of Job there are no clues or indications that he was not a real person.
  2. Other biblical references to Job – In Ezekiel 14:14,20 Job is mentioned along with Noah and Daniel as an example of righteousness. In the New Testament, James writes about the suffering of the prophets and states, “You have heard of the patience of Job” (James 5:11). These references do not suggest a fictitious character.

Does it really matter? I believe it does. Myths and fairy tales can teach and entertain but they do not provide principles that people can build their lives upon. In times of crisis, no one sits down with a friend who is in despair and says something like, “Now, remember what we learned from the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears?” But the true stories of real people facing the challenges of life with faith and courage, inspire us and help provide trustworthy materials with which we can build a foundation for our lives.

People pay more attention to true stories. When I was Christian Education Director of a church in Dartmouth, NS, I often told the children’s story in worship. Many times as I was just getting into the story, a child would interject with “Is this true?” Even at that age they knew that it made a difference.

LOOKING AHEAD

The next four blog posts will deal with the following sections of Job:

If you haven’t read the book of Job for awhile, you might want to read the book over the next four weeks. Start with Job 1:1-2:10 and see if you can find the truth that contradicts a common but erroneous belief about suffering.

In Memory of Helen Keirstead

Reflections on the anniversary of the loss of a friend

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           Planting a tree in Helen’s memory                            

This post is longer than my previous posts. You might want to find a comfortable seat and grab a cup of coffee. It is also more personal. I want to talk about a friend who passed away five years ago next week. Her name was Helen Keirstead. Her faith and friendship made a profound impact on my life.

LONG TIME FRIENDS

Helen and I met in 1978 at the Atlantic Baptist College, now Crandall University, in Moncton, NB. I also met Gary the same year. They married the following year.

I became a friend of the whole family. When her son, David, was very young, I used to stay overnight once in awhile and would sleep on the pull out sofa in the living room. David was instructed not to wake me up in the mornings so when he got up, which was earlier than anyone else, he would come out to the living room and just sit on my bed until I opened my eyes. He wanted me to watch cartoons with him. The greatest compliment David ever gave me was when he got his driver’s license he asked if he could have my license plate. At that time, I was preparing to move to South Korea and was trying to sell my car. (A local junkyard bought it for $70. You would have had to know my car to understand why!)

When her daughter Michelle was born and it was time for mother and baby to leave the hospital, their car was not working so I brought the two of them home (not in the same car mentioned above!) When Michelle was just a preschooler, whenever her mother was upset or discouraged, she would advise her, “Call Shirley DeMerchant!”

Gary was always ready to have a good chat about theology and churches. He also liked football but Helen didn’t. On Super Bowl Sunday, she would invite me over to their house to watch football with Gary. Her job was to provide the snacks. She was so pleased to have a friend who would watch the game with her husband that I didn’t have the heart to her that I didn’t like football!

When I went off to South Korea for 10+ years, I needed a place to store my personal belongings. Helen and Gary were gracious enough to find room in their basement for me to store my bedding, dishes and other household items. When I returned from Korea and had to set up house once again, I discovered I had less stuff. When I asked Helen where my flatware was she confessed that she had put it in her yard sale. When I showed surprise she explained that they needed the money! Oh, what we do for friends!

Helen always had a Bible verse to share or an answer to prayer or a funny story to tell, usually about herself. She was faithful in praying for me through all my moves and changes in employment. Then came the day when she asked me face-to-face a question that brought great comfort to her but fear and uncertainty to me.

“WILL YOU BE THERE FOR ME?”

One of my favorite walking places is Shubie Park in Dartmouth, NS. I don’t remember much about the day Helen invited me there for a walk, except for our conversation when we sat down at a picnic table by the duck pond. She broke the news to me that she had breast cancer. I knew that her mother had died young of breast cancer but I had seen no signs that Helen was ill. The news came as a shock to me. Then she asked me a question that no one has ever asked me. She asked if I would be there for her, to walk with her through the days ahead, to accompany her to her doctor’s appointments and to be present when she broke the news to her family. She also knew that she would not survive. She said that God had revealed to her in a dream that she would die from this cancer. She never told me the details of that dream and I felt it was too personal to ask. I could not say “no” to her request although inwardly I was shouting “no” to her news.

I was present when she broke the devastating news to her family. I was there when the doctor confirmed that she had stage 4 breast cancer. I was there when she died in the palliative care wing of the Victoria General Hospital in Halifax.

Helen faced each day with courage and humor. The cancer spread to her bones and it became difficult for her to walk. We used to joke with each other about her John Wayne swagger. She never complained. When the oncologist asked her if she had pain, and she said yes, then he knew that it was significant pain. He was often surprised by her. One day she slid a white envelope across his desk. He asked, “What’s this? Test results?” “No”, she replied, “It’s a Christmas card.”

BLESSINGS AND BEING A BLESSING

Although Helen’s imminent death brought much sadness there were some blessings in her knowing that she would not beat the cancer. I have known many fine Christian men and women who endured a wild roller coaster ride high with hope and faith in God’s healing only to be swooped low holding desperately on for dear life when healing didn’t come and death was inevitable. Helen knew exactly what the outcome would be.

Also, because her cancer was diagnosed so far along, there would be no chemo and therefore none of the terrible side effects like nausea and loss of hair. This enabled Helen to live a normal schedule up to the last days of her life because she was not stuck in a hospital waiting for treatment or recovering from it.

Even when Helen was hospitalized she still found ways to bless others. She asked me to buy her some note paper and she wrote notes of thanks to various people, like the woman who cleaned her hospital room each day. She even found time to arrange for a friend of hers to be granted his wish to drive a convertible that he had his eye on,  once she was gone.

When Helen was hospitalized, she knew she would never be able to return to her home, so she prepared for her home going service. She chose the songs she wanted sung, the scriptures she wanted read and she asked me to do the eulogy because I would “make sure it wasn’t sad”. I didn’t know how to respond to her request. I didn’t think I could do it so I told her I would think about it and get back to her.

I decided that I couldn’t do it. It would just be too difficult but by then her body was shutting down and she was neither awake nor able to communicate. I missed the chance to say no to her final request.

When Helen was taking her final breaths, many of us could not hold back the tears as we faced losing a wonderful friend. Her daughter, Michelle, a high school student at the time, played a CD for her mother and sang along with the words to “I Can Only Imagine” . Helen passed just moments later.

HER FUNERAL SERVICE

“I Can Only Imagine” was sung at her service and I gave the eulogy.

I began the message with these words, “This message comes to you from the letter ‘L'”. I shared 4 words that started with “L” that I associated with Helen.

  1. Lord – Helen was foremost, a follower of Jesus. Her greatest desire was to do His will. She was always happy to share with people what the Lord had done and was currently doing in her life. On May 7, 2009, Helen gave a devotional and shared her testimony at the Community Bible Study in Dartmouth. The 12-minute recording can be heard at (http://cbsdartmouth.blogspot.ca/2009/05/devotional-for-may-7th-by-helen.html).
  2. Little ones – Helen loved children. She knew how to teach and disciple children unlike anyone else I have known. They loved her creativity and her sense of fun. She was always happy to see them and always made time for them. There are many adults today who are mature Christians faithfully and effectively living out their faith because her life touched theirs through ministries like the backyard Bible clubs she held in her own backyard, Vacation Bible School, Sunday School, Junior Church or just through the contact she had with them in the neighborhood.
  3. Laughter – Helen loved to laugh and she made others laugh. She often confused words and almost always messed up the punch line of any joke she tried to tell. She could laugh at herself and often we did too!
  4. Love – Helen not only loved people but she let them know. She didn’t have a lot of money but would find inexpensive ways to let people know that she valued their friendship. Didn’t Jesus say that His disciples would be known for their love? Helen was.

A TREE PLANTED BY STREAMS OF WATER

A good friend of mine who has a cottage in Martin’s Point, NS, knew how much Helen meant to me and suggested planting a tree there in Helen’s memory. A tree is such a good symbol for Helen. Psalm 1 describes a person who delights in the Lord as “a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season”. (v.3)

Helen’s life is still bearing fruit today in the many lives she touched, including mine.

HELEN STORIES

I know that many of you reading this blog knew Helen. I would be delighted if you would take a moment to share some of your favorite memories of this remarkable woman.

10 Choices I Make Before Breakfast

How my morning routine jumpstarts my day

Morning. Beautiful Sexy Young Woman With Fit Slim Body Opening Curtains In Bedroom. Girl Standing Near Window At Home. New Day Concept. Wellness, Healthy Lifestyle.

 

I have been out of town this week and have missed my usual morning routine. The break was nice but I am eager to get back on schedule.

THE VALUE OF A REGULAR MORNING ROUTINE

I enjoy variety in my day but I have discovered that a regular morning routine quickly gets my body, mind and spirit ready for the day.  I use my time better when I know exactly what I am going to do the moment my feet hit the floor. I have experimented a lot with my morning routine and think I now have a schedule that helps me get the most out of the first few minutes of my day.

7 THINGS I CHOOSE TO DO BEFORE BREAKFAST

On most mornings, the moment I am out of bed, I make these 7 choices in this order:

  1. I choose to hydrate my body – Our bodies are dehydrated when we wake up. I used to wait until breakfast to begin my fluid intake with a cup of coffee. Now I start my day immediately with a couple glasses of water.
  2. I choose to free my mind of yesterday’s concerns and today’s tasks – I begin my day writing in my journal about whatever is on my mind. Some people call it a “Brain Dump”. I call it my “Morning Mind Clearing Exercise” or MMCE. I might write about yesterday’s activities, something I read or about what I need to do over the next few hours. By writing it down I free up my mind to be creative and to start the day fresh.
  3. I choose to fill my mind with inspirational music – I listen to worship music for about ten to fifteen minutes. I have a list of YouTube videos of both hymns and contemporary music that I enjoy. Much of what we will do in heaven is going to be worship so I rehearse every morning! Besides preparing me for that glorious eternity, worship music reminds me of my present blessings and inspires me to trust God for my needs.
  4. I choose to read God’s Word – I spend a few minutes reading scripture, recording insights, meditating and listening for God to speak to me. He knows if I need words of comfort or challenge, promises to remember or a need for rebuke. Sometimes I read through a book of the Bible from beginning to end or I may use a study guide. At the present time, I am using Kay Arthur’s book on 2 Corinthians called “Lord, Give Me a Heart for You.”
  5. I choose to submit my will, desires and worries to God in prayer – Prayer is hard work. It is a challenge for me to be still. Submitting myself in prayer before beginning my day’s work reminds me that God is in control. By confessing my sins, fears, worries and concerns, I am able to face the day with a clean slate. Prayer helps me to face the day with hope and anticipation of what God will do and where He will show up.
  6. I choose to stay focused on my purpose – By reading my life verse and personal mission statement I am reminded of my priorities. Blogger and writer Michael Hyatt likes to say that “people lose their way when they lose their why”. This step keeps me in tune with both.
  7. I choose to seek to do the right thing at the right time – By reading through my goals for the year, month and week, I am reminded of the commitments I have made to myself and to others. This step helps me make good decisions and to keep the big picture in mind.

3 THINGS I CHOOSE NOT TO DO BEFORE BREAKFAST

Just as I have carefully chosen actions that will prepare my body, soul and mind for the day ahead, I have become deliberate about what I choose not to do before breakfast.

  1. I choose not to exercise. I am a morning person so I have no difficulty getting up and doing quiet things like writing and reading first thing in the morning. However, I tend to get sleepy right after lunch so that is a better time for me to exercise.
  2. I choose not to check email and Facebook. I first learned the value of this discipline from Julie Morgenstern’s book, Never Check E-Mail In the Morning: And Other Unexpected Strategies for Making Your Work Life Work. This decision helps me maintain control over my day rather than have it highjacked by distractions on the Internet.
  3. I choose not to listen to the news – Years ago I used a clock radio that would wake me up with the news rather than with an alarm. I expected it to be a gentler way to start the day but it wasn’t. Listening to news reports of rape, murder and other crimes in my first waking moments filled my mind with negative feelings like anger, sadness and disgust. I have chosen to be selective about what I am exposed to first thing in the morning so the news comes on later.

These ten choices help me to get my day off to a great start. I believe the way the morning begins sets the tone for the rest of the day so I am very selective about what I do and don’t do first thing in the morning. I am not always successful in sticking to this routine but when I do, I notice the difference.

What elements of your morning help you start the day well?

When Your Time is Determined by the Needs of Others

The benefits of a personal mission statement

doctor writing record on folder while holding medicine in office

If you are one of my faithful subscribers, you likely are wondering where I’ve been for the last few weeks. You have been waiting for my weekly blog post and I have been waiting for a chance to write it!

Life has been busy! Hospitals, doctors, medications, surgery, waiting – all words that describe what has occupied my time recently. It’s not been my health that has been the concern but the health of family members.

We were relieved when my brother-in-law’s wait for a double bypass resulted in surgery at the Saint John Regional Hospital in Saint John, NB. Since the hospital is over two hours away, my sister booked a hotel in the city and I stayed with her to provide company and support. The surgery went well and he is back home making a good recovery.

I shortened my time in Saint John because in the few days I was away, both of my parents’ health declined, particularly my father’s. A couple of hours after returning home we took Dad to emergency where he spent the night. We took him back a few days later because there was no improvement. He had a reaction to the antibiotics so we took him to his family doctor who wanted to hospitalize him. There were no beds available so Mom and I are caring for him at home. He is now getting back on his feet.

In spite of this hectic and stressful time, I am grateful. I am grateful for our medical system, for the love and support of family and friends, and for answered prayer. I am also grateful for how God has prepared me to be here at this time.

MY MISSION STATEMENT

When I transitioned last fall from a full-time ministry position to living with my parents I wrote a personal mission statement. Since my priorities and daily schedule were going to be quite different in this new season of life, I decided to put down on paper what my focus would be.

This is what I came up with:

My purpose is to glorify God by serving others, using my God-given gifts and passion, with the intention of bringing others closer to Him.”

Penning this one sentence has helped me to find contentment when responding to unexpected needs and demands on my time. My mission statement helps me in the following ways:

  1. It helps me focus. My productivity is no longer measured by the sermons I write, meetings I attend or people I baptize. It is in the opportunities to serve to which I respond.
  2. It provides a variety of ways to fulfill my purpose. I need variety or else I get bored. I can serve in so many ways – cooking, driving, doling out medication, waiting and just practicing the ministry of being present. I serve not just my parents and other family members. I am also serving my readers when I write.
  3. It is intentional. I do not choose to serve so that I feel needed. I don’t serve primarily because someone else has a need. I serve because my greatest goal is to honor Christ and serving others is the best way to do this in this season of my life.
  4. It protects my heart from resentment and bitterness. I have met many people who resent the demands made upon them and the needs that arise that interfere with their plans. On the odd occasion when I wish I was needed less so I could do more of my own work, this statement has brought me back to what my work really is – serving others. Because I have chosen this as my focus, when unexpected needs arise, I am more able to respond willingly and with a sense of joy.

Although this statement is less than 25 words, it is long enough to keep me on course. These words and my life verse strengthened and encourage me with the assurance that I am exactly where God wants me to be. He will provide all the resources I need. He is pleased with me and He will bless the work of my hands.

YOUR MISSION STATEMENT

If you do not have a personal mission statement I encourage you to consider taking some time to put down on paper your main priorities for this season of your life. Don’t expect the words to come easily. They seldom do but if you keep working on it, eventually the right words will come.

If you are experiencing a time of transition where demands on you are changing, or you feel overwhelmed by all the demands being made upon you, or you just need clarity right now in your life, this exercise will be well worth the effort. Not only will you gain clarity but it will increase your capacity for joy.

If you are willing to take on this assignment, I would be willing to give you some assistance.  Just send me your mission statement and I will give you my feedback and suggestions.